Today I want to talk about what I like to call the Top 5 Rules for personal defense, while going on blind dates and what personal defense weapons should be used. In this article I am going to cover everything that should be considered before even thinking about going on a blind date. From what rules you should never break, to what personal defense weapons should be considered for your personal protection. Once we are finished, you will than be much more prepared should a situation occur. Because, as I always say.. Chance favors the prepared mind!
Personal Defense Rule #1: Discretion is Protection
Rule #1 in my top 5 rules for personal defense: Don’t ever be too quick to reveal too much personal information about yourself or your family. Don’t let them know where you live right away. If he/she offers to pick you up for the date, kindly refuse and find away to get to the date on your own. This can be a friend that is going on a double date with you, public transit, or your own vehicle. It doesn’t matter. This is a rule that should not be broken easily. Yet, it is all the time when people go on blind dates.
Some people like to be quick to take their date back to their place for a night cap or to continue the date. This not only goes against biblical principals. It opens you and your loved ones up to be potentially trapped in a relationship with some one who has no interest in your well being. Which is a very difficult situation for most women and even some men to get out of, once the trap has been sprung. Which is why The Lord commands us to be chaste and sober minded to begin with. He also commands us to not be unequally yoked.
(2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV) “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”. So it is wise to be secretive about your home life at least for a short while. At least until you get to know each other on a much more personal level. Take it from me from my own experience from my life as a sinner and “rushing things”. Once the devil has a foothold in your life. It is very hard to get him to give up territory that once belonged to him.
Once your date knows where you live, they have a lot more power than you should be willing to give some one in such a short period of time. Now, I know you are grown adults. I also know I can’t tell any one how to live their life. Yet, following the Lord’s advice here and taking things really slow in the beginning. Is probably the best decision you can make for yourself and the ones in your life that you love. For the reason that, as I said before. Once the devil gets a foot in your door. It’s sometimes extremely difficult to get him back out. Which brings me to rule #2.
Personal Defense Rule #2: Chance Favors the Prepared Mind, Make Your Personal Defense Weapons Choice
Rule #2 in my top 5 rules for personal defense:
Always know what personal defense weapons you are planning to carry with you. This is where your own discernment will come into play. You will also need to consider what the environment will be like should you need to use a personal defense weapon in the event the date should turn a little sour. We will talk more about environment in a moment. This is where you need to consider if the situation warrants using your firearm, or is it possible to end the situation even if the attacker had a firearm by using a less-lethal self defense weapon such as a pepper ball gun,for distance between you and the attacker. Perhaps, a discreet little personal defense weapon like a key-chain stun gun for stealth. Or possibly a self-defense key-chain like the Cat Strike Self-Defense Key-Chain.
No matter what personal defense weapon you choose. I highly recommend having more than just one option for self-defense. Should one option fail you in some way. Than you will always have a backup. Like the rule says, “Chance Favors the Prepared Mind!”.
Personal Defense Rule #3: There is Safety in Numbers!
Rule #3 in my top 5 rules for personal defense:
Should you have the opportunity to get your blind date to agree to a double date. That would be the ideal situation for you be protected by the watchful and protective eyes of friends and loved ones. Now, this may sound hypocritical. Yet, I don’t mind. You should never put yourself in a situation where your blind date will have friends around, yet you don’t. If they agree to go on a date alone with you and your friends or family. That’s fine. Though, you should never do it in their turf. I have heard of situations where bad people have violated women and men also when they went on a blind date in strange territory with no friends of their own close by. Human Trafficking is no joke and it can happen to anyone, so be mindful these things happen.
Always be sure the date is in a location where there are lots of people. Not just for safety in numbers. Yet, also for the reason that once the date is over.You want to be sure to be able to leave the date without being followed home. Remember to always protect rule #1. So using a large crowed to disappear and make sure you’re not being tailed is a good way to protect your home address, at least for the time being until you know each other.
Personal Defense Rule #4:
Rule #4 in my top 5 rules for personal defense: Your Purse & Drink are Attached to You!
Never put your belongings at risk of being manipulated or used for a dark purpose. Should you need to go to the bathroom. Don’t leave your drink or purse at the table. This leaves room for your blind date to sneak into your purse to get your ID info and address, again, remember rule #1. If you don’t want to take a drink into the restroom, which is understandable. Than you should finish it before going, and make sure to order a fresh drink yourself when you come back.
If your date orders it for you, always be sure you are keeping an eye on your drink from the time it leaves the bar tender, until the time it gets to your hand. Even if you have friends with you on the date. Never leave your things for them to watch. They may get distracted because they are there to have a good time as well. So keep your things with you at all times.
Personal Defense Rule #5:
Rule #5 in my top 5 rules for personal defense: Always Have a Safe Word Buddy
I have made this the final, yet not the least important rule for personal defense. You must always have a safe word buddy, though it needs to be some one whom you really trust. As you will need to share everything with this person about your blind date. This will enable you to have a friend who is aware of the date and everything involved with said date. This includes how you met this blind date. Show them any social media profiles and photos of your date.The more you can share with your safe word buddy about this date. The safer you will make yourself in the long run.
Have a planned calling schedule for your buddy to call once maybe even twice during your date. As well as a planned safe word which you can easily fit into a casual conversation that won’t raise any suspicion should there be an emergency. If you are carrying multiple personal defense weapons as suggested in personal defense rule #2. Than it is unlikely, though not impossible that your date should be able to do any harm or do any attempt to kidnap you without having a seriously bad day afterward.
Yet, should the situation get that far out of hand, than you will have some one to get a message to through a simple text. This will alert them to a problem and they will then be able to call the police and give them all the prior information that you had given them.Thereby allowing the police to, perhaps find you more quickly and save your life.
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